It Starts Small

¹⁰ You are witnesses, and so is God, of how holy, righteous and blameless we were among you who believed. ¹¹ For you know that we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children, ¹² encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into his kingdom and glory.

1 Thessalonians 2:10-12

Paul fervently reminds the Thessalonians of his and his co-workers’ unwavering conduct while ministering among them. He does this passionately, as he exemplifies the very essence of discipleship and the deep respect for fellow believers. They are called to wholeheartedly mimic his inspiring example in their own lives. They eagerly share the profound lessons they have learned with others in their journey of faith.

In verse 11, Paul passionately encourages them as a devoted father would his beloved children. Previously, he beautifully illustrated the image of a nurturing mother. This reflected his profound compassion and affection for his spiritual children at Thessalonica. Now, he evocatively uses the imagery of a father. He highlights the earnest way he gave invaluable instruction to them. What profound lessons can we glean about the art of raising both biological and spiritual children?

On fathers:

Fathers must passionately devote their time to their children. Paul experienced the profound impact of being present with the Thessalonians, understanding that these connections were vital. Yet, too many fathers abrogate their sacred duty, relinquishing their role in nurturing their children to others. This tragedy isn’t a modern phenomenon. It echoes through the ages in the Bible. We witness fathers like David and Samuel falter in raising godly offspring. In today’s world, countless fathers allow others to fill their role. These include grandparents, mothers, teachers, babysitters, house helpers, nannies, Sunday school teachers, and even the television. Paul could only remain in Thessalonica briefly due to circumstances beyond his control. His commitment was unwavering. He poured his very life into those he cared for (see verse 8). Many fathers wrestle with guilt over the lost hours with their children. They try to compensate with extravagant gifts. Some opt for premium educations or grand celebrations. Yet, they overlook the irreplaceable value of dedicated, quality time spent with their kids. To all current and future fathers, let this be your rallying cry. Vow today to prioritize this precious bond within your family!

Fathers must fervently invest in their children’s lives! If parents stand idly by, merely watching their children grow, their children will inevitably turn to all the wrong influences. These include peers, popular culture, a morally bankrupt education system, and television. It is vital for fathers to prioritize teaching their children the profound truths of God. Consider Proverbs 22:6 and Proverbs 20:7 as guiding beacons.

⁶ Start children off on the way they should go,
    and even when they are old they will not turn from it.

Proverbs 22:6

⁷ The righteous lead blameless lives;
    blessed are their children after them.

Proverbs 20:7

Christian parents cannot simply assume that their children will “get it.” Just coming from a Christian household or attending church is not enough. Just look at how Paul tirelessly reminded the Thessalonians of their responsibilities. He did so not with harshness but with compassion and tenderness, yet he did it nonetheless. A parent’s greatest duty toward their children is to instill knowledge of God within them. This is not a once-and-done task or a weekly checkbox; it’s a continuous commitment! Just as Paul passionately exhorted the Thessalonians to live rightly, he also encouraged and implored them to follow the Lord. Fathers must do the same passionately!

Notice, too, that fathers cannot compel their children to embrace what is right! Paul passionately implored the Thessalonians to respond positively because he understood he had no power to coerce them. A father may succeed in forcing a small child to follow principles for a brief period. This adherence is often only on the surface. However, as that child matures, the father’s influence wanes, and he can no longer impose his will. This is why it is vital to instill these cherished values deep within the hearts of children. Encourage them fervently to uphold what they have already been taught and accepted!

On ministering to spiritual children:

It demands your heart and soul! Everything mentioned holds its ground when it comes to nurturing spiritual children. You must wholeheartedly dedicate time to that individual. You need to be ready to engage with them, guide them, mentor them, forge a friendship, and pray alongside them. This is not just about a mere weekly study. Clearly, someone who reaches out to many won’t be able to invest the same depth of time. They wouldn’t be able to give as much time as they would with their own children. Yet, they must commit to spending their time in moments beyond the study or church walls. This helps the individual grow and confront life’s challenges through a biblical lens.

It demands unwavering encouragement, as growth is an extraordinary journey often fraught with challenges and uncertainties. A baby needs abundant support to blossom into a healthy and mature individual. This journey encompasses not just physical development but also profound emotional growth. It intricately weaves in the intellectual dimensions as well. Just as infants depend on their caregivers for nurturance, guidance, and sustenance, spiritual babies yearn for help too. They flourish through the warmth of encouragement and the depth of understanding from those around them. This vital support empowers their faith to deepen and thrive. This nurturing role is indispensable, creating a safe haven where both physical and spiritual beings can explore boldly. Here, they can learn passionately and ultimately grow into their fullest potential.

You cannot force a disciple to do what is right. However, it is essential to remember that your role as a mentor transcends mere compliance. You can remind them about what is right. Do this by consistently revisiting the fundamental principles and values that guide their journey. This reinforcement can be achieved through thoughtful discussions and examples drawn from both personal experiences and shared teachings. Additionally, praying for them can cultivate a supportive atmosphere. In this environment, they feel encouraged and uplifted. It enhances their sense of introspection and motivation. Furthermore, ask them to take the right path. Combine this with your unwavering support. This approach can help instill a sense of accountability within them. This nurturing relationship is characterized by patience. It is also characterized by understanding. These qualities ultimately inspire a disciple to choose the right actions of their own accord.

live lives worthy of God

This stands as one of the ultimate challenges bestowed upon us by God! While we may never feel fully worthy of His boundless love and affection, we aspire to respond in a way that honors His incredible love. He has poured this love out upon us. Can you recall the poignant examples from the Bible? Some chose to embrace God’s love and call, while others neglected it. The unforgiving servant (Matthew 18:21-35) serves as a stark warning. The transformation of Zacchaeus (Luke 19:1-10) shines brightly as a testament to what it means to accept His grace. The ten lepers embody both a glorious affirmation and a somber reminder (Luke 17:11-19). God has lovingly called us to be His adopted children, heirs alongside Christ Himself (Romans 8:12-17). How can one dare to live in a manner worthy of such a divine calling? What steps do you need to embrace or abandon to truly respond with the honor this calling deserves?

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Discussion Questions

• What can you learn from Paul and Silas about how to treat others?
• Why is it so important to have a good testimony among the people you witness to?
• What image does Paul bring up in verse 11 about their relationship with the Thessalonians? Compare and contrast this to verse 7.
• Can a father force his children to follow God? Why not? If a father cannot make his children do right, what can a father do? What can you learn from Paul about how a father should treat his children?

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